Been absent – father passed away.
Will be back shortly
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I’m sorry to hear that. My condolences.
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I am very sorry too. I remember what it is like. For me, it was like having hte rug pulled out from underneath you and you simply don’t stop falling for a while.
Was he ill first?
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No, it was quite sudden.
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I personally think there is a high level of mercy in sudden death.
Nut warning:
If you dream of him or hear his voice, pay attention. He will have something to say to you if he comes to you.I don’t hear my dad but I sure do my sister, . And she is always in dreams, telling me to do things like invest in silver. In real or awake hearing, she said things like “I’m sorry’ and “add five minutes” to my exercise program. One day I was giving morphine and ativan to a man dying of cancer, just days left to live. Suddenly the feel of her presence was there with me. I continued to check him, making sure he was comfortable and somewhat aligned, checking the O2 sat and stuff. Outside the door, I said to her out loud that I so glad she was here, but that I had a lot of work to do, so she would just have to tag along with me if she wanted to stay.
There were a couple of dreams with dad.
I don’t think death of the present body is the finale’.
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“Nut warning”
I’ve not shied away from telling you that sometimes I think you’re “a bit of a kook”. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, BTW.
On this, I’m not saying “I agree with you”, but “I’m open to this”.
“I was giving morphine and ativan to a man dying of cancer, just days left to live.”
I admire you for this. My daughter works in a nursing home. I admire her for that, too. I think I lack the strength to get to know people, at least some of whom are wonderful human beings, knowing I’m watching them die. That you, and my daughter, are willing and able to care for them is truly admirable.
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I wasn’t in a nursing home at the time. But I agree with you. I admire the people who are willing to do that kind of thing. The workers are wonderful people. I hate nursing homes, and their rules and regulations and their pretenses that they care. They are prisons really. There has got to be a better way to deliver care to those that need it.
If you are ever in a situation where you need a nursing home, remember that this is a time of high unemployment. People will be willing to come to the home and deliver the same kind of care, … without agency. I would require bonding tho from these people. Or nursing students, because they had to have background checks just to get into nursing schools. So you know a student is cleared.
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Sorry for your loss, alvy.
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Thanx one and all.
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I’d bring ya a box of mac and cheese to save you from having to cook while you grieve, but it’d be kind of a long, wet drive.
(Inside joke, folks. Not to worry.)
Seriously, I hope my joke cheered you up a bit. It sucked to lose my dad. I still ask him “cloud questions”, and realize that he raised me because I already know the answer. He was a seriously talented guy who cared about the people around him. If I’m lucky, I’m half the man he was. In a racist town, I was raised in an environment where people are people, and I was born in the late 50′s.
You and I may pull out knives and go after each other once in a while, but you’re a good guy, Alvy. A great touchstone for when I get to be too much of a Democrat.
I hope you’re back into the swing of things, soon. Life does go on. I know. I’ve been through it.
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